Attachment Based Therapy
Reclaiming Authenticity Through Relationship and Awareness
Do you ever feel like you’re living a version of yourself that doesn’t quite fit?
Maybe you’ve spent years doing what’s expected—showing up for others, staying busy, keeping it together—yet underneath, you sense a quiet longing for something more real. Perhaps you find yourself repeating patterns in relationships or feeling disconnected from your own emotions and needs.
These experiences often trace back to our early attachments—the ways we learned to stay safe, loved, and accepted. Over time, those protective patterns can begin to limit us. You may long to feel more genuine, grounded, and free, but not quite know how to get there.
Understanding Attachment and Authenticity
As physician and author Gabor Maté explains, we all share two essential human needs: attachment (our need for connection) and authenticity (our need to be true to ourselves). When these needs come into conflict, many of us learn to prioritize attachment—suppressing parts of who we are in order to stay connected.
Therapy offers a space to reclaim both. By exploring your attachment patterns with compassion, you can begin to understand how they formed and how they continue to shape your life today. In this process, you learn that you can have both connection and authenticity—you no longer have to choose.
What Is Attachment-based Gestalt Therapy?
Attachment-based Gestalt therapy centers on the importance of relationship and present-moment awareness.
This therapy explores how our early relationships shape the way we relate to ourselves and others. It helps us understand the protective patterns we developed to stay safe and connected, and offers new experiences of safety, trust, and authenticity through the therapeutic relationship itself.
Gestalt Therapy emphasizes awareness of what is happening in the present moment, within your body, emotions, thoughts, and environment. Rather than focusing solely on past events, Gestalt invites you to experience and integrate what arises here and now, begin to take self-responsibility and make choices from this place.
These approaches create a deeply relational and experiential process. We explore how your patterns show up in real time, practice new ways of being, and strengthen your ability to stay grounded and authentic in connection—with yourself, others, and the world around you.
My Approach
At the heart of my work is the belief that healing happens through relationship—through the experience of being seen, understood, and met as you are. In our work together, we slow down enough to listen to what your body, emotions, and deeper self are trying to say. This process isn’t about fixing what’s wrong with you—it’s about remembering what’s already whole.
Our early relationships shape how we learn to love, protect, and express ourselves. Together, we bring awareness to these patterns not as flaws, but as creative strategies that once kept you safe. As trust builds, new ways of relating begin to emerge—ways that feel more genuine, spontaneous, and alive. Gestalt and attachment-based principles guide this process, inviting you to explore what’s happening here and now, rather than just talking about it from a distance.
I also draw on somatic and mindfulness practices to help you reconnect with your body’s natural wisdom. By learning to notice your nervous system and its rhythms, you develop the capacity to stay grounded and present, even in moments of vulnerability or change. From the perspective of depth psychology, I hold that our struggles carry meaning and purpose—they often point toward parts of ourselves waiting to be reclaimed.
Nature is woven throughout this work, whether through time outdoors, working with horses, or simply reconnecting with your own inner nature. The natural world mirrors our inner life—it teaches us about balance, rhythm, and belonging.
This is a collaborative and experiential process—one that honors your mind, body, heart, and soul. Together, we create a space where you can come home to yourself, remember your aliveness, and live from a place that feels grounded and true.
What You Can Expect
As we work together, you can expect to:
Understand your attachment and how it shapes your relationships and how you walk through the world.
Develop greater emotional regulation and awareness.
Strengthen your ability to identify and communicate needs and boundaries.
Cultivate self-compassion and inner trust.
Experience more genuine, fulfilling connections with others.
Over time, you’ll notice a shift from managing relationships through fear or habit, to engaging from authenticity and choice.
Start Your Journey
Whether you’re navigating a transition, feeling disconnected, or simply ready to know yourself more deeply, attachment-based therapy can help you come home to who you truly are.
I offer in-person therapy in Durango, Colorado, and online sessions for clients across Colorado.
Reach out for a free 15-minute consultation to see if this work feels like a good fit.
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